El dolor es inevitable, el sufrimiento es opcional

Libros de Haruki MurakamiDescubrí apenas a Haruki Murakami, Kafka en la orilla y De lo que hablo cuando hablo de correr fueron mis compras de impulso en la última visita a la librería (si, lo confieso, sé evitar casi cualquier compra, pero cuando se trata de libros, pierdo como el que más). Este no es un blog literario así que me limitaré a decir que me tiene atrapada y que el título de este post es una frase robada a este autor.

La vida es… simplemente vida. Si todo fuese rosa seriamos absolutamente aburridos. De vez en vez algo no sale como lo planeamos, acumulamos deudas, perdemos un trabajo, los clientes no pagan o una tormenta tropical se niega a ser eso, tropical, y de pronto nos pega en plena zona árida, inundando casas y arrastrando autos. Duele y no podemos evitarlo pero el cómo reaccionamos ante ese dolor está completamente bajo nuestro ámbito de influencia.

¿Sufrir? El sufrimiento es una elección. No hay nada que alguien pueda hacer para aliviar el sufrimiento de alguien más hasta que ese alguien decide por sí mismo dejar de sufrir. En el tratamiento de adicciones se le conoce como “tocar fondo” y ocurre cuando la persona decide que no quiere seguir sufriendo y que nadie más puede hacer algo sino él o ella misma.

Saber esto nos ayuda para darnos cuenta de lo maravilloso que puede ser aprender a manejar nuestras emociones. Porque el sufrimiento es el mejor estado para la no-acción. El sufrimiento nos cicla y nos impide pensar en fomas de aliviar el dolor. ¿Recuerdas aquella vez que decidiste salir del auto-apapacho y tiraste el último pañuelo desechable a la basura? Seguramente más de una solución al problema vino a tu mente.

¿Y los demás? ¡Uff! Parecería que están dispuestos a pagar boleto para vernos sufrir: “¿Tienes problemas? ¡SEGURO te sientes muuuuuy mal!”  Y si hasta entonces no estabas sufriendo entonces algo debe estar mal contigo y ya con eso en la mente nos damos permiso para ir llorando por las banquetas… El mejor antídoto es provocar abstinencia en aquellos adictos al dolor ajeno.

¿Fácil? ¡Para nada! Pero bien dicen (y creo que hasta era un comercial) que: “Si las cosas que valen la pena fueran fáciles, cualquiera las haría” y lástima que no me vieron llorando a moco tendido viendo “Toy Story 3” durante la escena de la mudanza. Dolió pero elijo no sufrir.

Karla Bayly

Pd1 –  Este jueves 8 de julio a las 19 horas, es la presentación de mi libro “Toma el Control de tu Dinero”. Salón de usos múltiples #1, Parque Tecnológico del Tec de Monterrey Campus Querétaro. Ojalá puedan acompañarme.

Pd2 – Un par de frases más de Murakami para reflexionar:

“En este mundo, nada hay tan cruel como la desolación de no desear nada”

“El destino es algo que se debe mirar volviendose hacia atras, no algo que deba saberse de antemano”

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